ll, things seem to be going in the right direction. you postponing the apt is a show of good faith to your h and i know he is happy about that. it is so hopeful that your h had agreed to c. it took my h 3 yrs to get to the point where he was willing to ask for outside help. and it has made such a differance. just being willing is such a big step. if i had a few hours, i think i would get a massage! but shopping is good too. lisa