A new year Part XIV

[Fender]

I question her motives constantly and wonder about her behavior all the time.

Can you tell me why? Her motives don't matter anymore. Her behavior is her own problem. By questioning them, you lend them legitimacy, increasing the struggle.

You can't change the person she's chosen to be and you won't understand it, so you're asking questions that have no answers. Sounds like a sure way to end up with brick prints on your forehead. By continuing to question these things instead of telling yourself, "she's going to do her thing and it's going to be nutty", you're EXPECTING to be able to answer. You're EXPECTING to see a resolution. If ever one comes, it's a long way off. You know that. You also know one may never come.

I'd say every time you want to ask or ponder those questions, instead of "why?", ask yourslef, "what?" What can you do more productively for yourself. What can you do for your kids that has nothing to do with her craziness? You know the drill.

Stay strong buddy.

I agree with HS. Don't worry about her why's anymore.