Stubborn rises again! wow. Haven't been around for a few months and many new names. Sad,really sad, that so many people get stuck in this sitch.

Brief overview: Spouse began affair with OW about 18 months ago. (ick I HATE writing that)They "break up" about every 3 months and spouse has already told me they cannot have a "long term" relationship. (I know, it seems obvious, doesn't it?)I have worked my butt off and made clear that I will do all I can to bring us back from the edge. Spouse is finally seeing counselor again and trying to make a "decision".Spouse has problems with "sacrifice" due to bad childhood and therefore should never have to "give up" anything because has already suffered enough. (It's like greenstamps, when you fill up your book you're done and can buy a prize)


So, I'm looking for opinions on how to handle a small "trial separation". Spouse is going to "housesit" for SIL for a week in order to try to clear head. I asked if she intended to do w/o seeing OW as well. No. Hmmmmmm.....ok.

My questions:
1) what to tell D8? Anything beyond "she's housesitting"? Spouse was talking about D having a sleepover and I'm thinking she needs to do w/o daughter as well to see what it's like.

2) Anybody done small separations and how did they work for you? What did you do that was particularly effective? Make any mistakes? Advice please from others who have experienced it.

3) I'm thinking spouse needs a big dose of reality, ie: no me, no daughter. See what you could end up with...Opinions? Don't want to just alienate her but...hey, welcome to potential reality.

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Stubborn

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