Hi FTLC.

I've been intermittently here, and somehow I missed out on replying to you...

I know you held out, but your W. moved fast! Is she any happier?

Well, she did move fast and there was a reason for that. Is she happier? I don't know, and won't unless she ever decides to contact me. I hope she found what she was looking for and can be happy, though.

Actually, I don't want to hijack your thread, but the story is here, if you are interested...
Stoic #8: the end and the beginning

you've got a Ph.D and were going to publish some stuff a while back?

Yep. We published last October on one project and have another paper submitted right now. The wheels keep turning, though sometimes I'm not exactly sure how.

and I believe I am too.

No doubt there.

Are you seeing nayone?

Casually, though I recently had the pleasant experience of the let's just be friends speech from someone I was getting a little attached to.

I guess the possibility of being alone on holidays, weekends, etc. is still pretty overwhelming to me.

I have the opposite problem - namely, I could almost be completely comfortable being agoraphobic were it not for the desire for a feeling of connectedness. Odd how I could be perfectly at ease with what you are overwhelmed by, and presumably vice versa.

until she snapped into the unfulfilled angry stage, which I could not figure out.

It's difficult to interpret the anger and unhappiness with everything: my driving, which container I put food away in, where I put dishes after I unloaded the diswasher...that's how it went for at least 3-4 years.


But again, you never really know what's going on in someone else's head, and chances are the roots for this behavior on her part were laid a long time ago. Probably has nothing (OK, a little) to do with you, you're just the nearest, most convenient target.

It's easier now, because I don't have to face that every day. Believe me...being in Iraq IS EASIER THAN THE DRAG I FELT AT HOME.

That second sentence says a lot. Wow.

You have to worry about yourself. I tend to agree that I'll be a far different person when I return home from Iraq.

Good for you. And I hope you can continue taking care of you.

Stay safe,


S_O_T_S
aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface

I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall

Take away this ball and chain - Social Distortion

M: 10/3/04 - 5/23/07