My "This is under newcomers" is locked - URGENT

[saffie]

GISH - I wouldn't talk to him. He is already on the way out and you may risk upsetting your wife so much that even if she splits with OM she won't come back to you because she will think you have betrayed her and she cannot trust you.

Also, he sounds very manipulative, nasty and not so clever. I think he will dare you to follow through and you already said you don't want to sue him. Also your son may get to find out. I think this is a last resort thing for if your wife definately decides she wants to be with him. At the moment that doesn't seem to be the case. He is managing to upset your W all by himself. I would expect him to get only more aggressive and unpleasant over time. Really GISH, OM is shooting himself in the foot.

You have to look to yourself and make yourself an attractive alternative to OM. Look at what was wrong in your M that made your W willing to look elsewhere and sort that out. That is your priority. OM will get rid of himself - no doubt about it.

Saffie