Showing desire, in a real way...

[Dom R]

Wanting some time-- even a LOT of time-- alone does not necessarily indicate anything wrong in the R. To me it just means YOU NEED SOME ALONE TIME. Everyone needs that.

[....]My heart just sank...and I went back to the video store and returned the movies.

Lillie,


Why does it have to be "alone"?
What was your problem with watching that stuff, even when your H was there?

to me, that sounds like a problem with you, not being willing to be yourself.
It sounds like the problem isnt that you "need to be alone",but rather, that you only give yourself permission to do what you enjoy, when you are alone.

If so, the best solution isnt "to get more 'alone time'", but to undergo a little self improvement, and "let you be you", even when your husband is around.

If he chooses not to join you, then you are in basically the same situation as if you did it "alone".
If he DOES join you,in a positive spirit about it... then that might give you an even better relationship with your H.

There's a difference between having "your space/time", where you wont be interrupted by "honey can you do ...." issues...
vs having a time and place where you are deliberately anti-social.