I like you. You are a very positive upbeat kinda guy. I have done ALL the communication you describe at one time or the other with the possible exception of "demanding". I do say ouch, harder, faster, to the left, or why don't we try .... I get the answer "I'm more comfortable this way" or no answer at all. When we dated H went down on me like...maybe three times. I have done the "sneak attack 69 before and since the time I directly asked for oral and he acted like he didn't hear. I have done all of that and for my efforts have been given oral from my H less than 10 total times (no, personal hygeine is not an issue).
Here's the thing C'mon - H is a 40 something businessman who has certainly viewed his share of porn, popular culture etc... That means he knows some things like:
* It is rude to not respond at all to a sexual request even if that response is "Later". * It is sexually selfish to allow a ratio of say 100 times of being "done" to maybe one of "doing" the other person orally. * It is not within the average of marital sexuality to have sex once/month as an average and often to go longer than that. * It does not jive when you tell your W that she is a great wife, attractive etc... and then not to do anything about it.
And Cac,
Yes, I am sexually attractive. How do I know? I know because I do keep myself slim and put together and other men notice. I'm not gonna do anything about that but it is time that I quit volunteering for crap sex.
