Hey dazed and Confused, I would like to recommend you read Divorce Rememdy and Stop Your Divorce by Homer MacDonald. Homer uses jujitsu and biblical analogies so it will be an enjoyable read for you. Yes, he does say to date others and uses a harem ideology, but guess what, it is psychology and it works. If someone sees you as a friend, platonic, loves you like a brother, says they love you but are not in love with you, nothing will snap them out of that faster than when someone else notices that you are a desirable. I feel like you, as though I cannot switch gears, but I have a feeling a cup of coffee with a cute dude may not be the worst thing in the world. Or maybe a group outing to the movies.
I think you have a lot of potential to save your marriage. Try not to be too available. Do 180's ASAP. Continue to help others. This will take your mind off your worries. Wow, you are in a profession that requires arguing. That can be difficult to switch of when you are in R mode. Do a real 180 then! Agree to everything she wants, or else the arguing will make you seem like you are being manipulative.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
