Thanks for the advice lwb. But the difference with the OM this time, is he thought if my wife and I were legally separated that it would be ok. In his previously situation he was NOT separated from his own wife. BUT checking the laws in NC, he is wrong. I know he convinced my wife to make it a legal separation last month instead of her just moving into an apartment. What he may not realize is even with us being separated, it is illegal in NC and I could come after him for damages. So he IS CONCERNED, again that's why he pushed her (in mind at least, no facts) to get the legal paperwork, to protect him. I was banking on the fact it may scare him but again I'm torn what to do
