My thread is locked but I need advice badly and quickly. In NC where we live, the OM can be taken to court by me and be sued for having relations with my wife. Here is the question. I'm thinking of calling him and telling him man to man what he is doing is wrong. I want to do it calmly and tell him if he backs off and does NOT going running to my wife telling her I called him, I won't pursue legal action against him but if he tells her I will get the best lawyer I can find. Here's my delemma. If he tells my wife I called she will be upset and will feel I pushed her further away. But if he is worried about being sued he may well back off. Can I trust he will be scared off enough or do you think he would tell her. And his own wife that he is divorcing DID sue his mistress when he had an affair on his own wife many years ago, so I don't think he'd want to go through that again. Opinions please because I want to call tonight while my wife and him are having arguments before they make up
