every spouse is different

[Dom R]

Usually, there's a lot of talk about how, when you truely detach from your spouse, and then "go dark" or dim on them.... THAT's when they really start getting interested in you, and try to come back.

I wanted to post that that is not always the case for everyone.

I think that it's really important to not be "needy". But that's not the same as ignoring them.

However, some of the biggest positive trends in my relationship with my (still separated for over a year) wife, have been when I chose to make a big deal over special events, and give her a gift, or a treat, etc. Birthdays, mothers day, even one time our anniversary (the first was a dud, but the second went very nicely)


Unfortunately, it hasnt lasted firmly yet
But I just wanted to share that little differing datapoint, in amoungst the "get a life, ignore them, and they'll come crawling back" type attitudes.

Every leaving spouse has similarities... yet they are also unique.