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Did the OW's H in your situation know that you knew about the A when he talked to you or did he come to you thinking you had no knowledge of it? I don't remember. The other reason I don't want to contact OW's H is because I don't want to cause him any pain.


Sue, OW's H knew about the A before me. He suspected it, and hired a PI, tapped his phone (legal in Missouri), and gathered physical evidence. He did all of this out of fear of losing his kids and the house in a potential divorce. He told OW that he would be contacting me, so my H confessed, but remember my H did not confess everything. So, when I finally returned OW's H call, he knew I knew, but definately filled me in on more things.

I debated for weeks about contacting him (remember, MY H told me he didn't know yet) because I would want someone to tell me. However, I did not because I didn't want to be the one to divide their family. I didn't want their kids to lose their dad because of something I did. However, looking back, I should have called sooner.

Would you want OW's H to call you if you were in the dark?

For now, I think sitting and waiting is what you should do. Like you said, your H might walk out the door out of sheer anger that you contacted one of them. And you don't want him to leave. It might backslide all the positive things going on right now. However, if you see more evidence of them seeing each other more, calling each other more, then you can rethink. Its soooo hard to wait and see, I know you want to R talk with him every time you see him, but I think it would just make him feel cornered. He isn't going to forget that you know, just because you don't bring it up.

I know all about the kissing thing, and I am glad you did some of that last night. \:\) Its a sort of reconnection thing, isn't it?

Oh my!! Rules Of Engagement!! I love that show. I love "Putty" from Seinfeld and that show is hilarious with him on there. I saw it last night too. \:\)