Get me on a smoother ride....need advice - part 3

[SueS]

lwb-

As always, thank you. I know, you're right. I want to contact everyone, but I know I can't. My fear as far as contacting OW's H would be seeing my H flip his lid and walk out the door. I know that's a real possibility and I don't want that to happen. I have high doubts that my H has told OW that I know. Why would he? It could break things apart. I don't think OW would be without emotion. I don't know if she'd apologize to me, but I think it would make her take a step back......maybe push her into reality. However, like I said....it would push my H over the edge if I called her or her H.

Did the OW's H in your situation know that you knew about the A when he talked to you or did he come to you thinking you had no knowledge of it? I don't remember. The other reason I don't want to contact OW's H is because I don't want to cause him any pain. He's a nice guy. For all I know, she's living her life like everything is perfect. Keep in mind that they don't see each other as much as my H and I do now. I might not have noticed as much if we'd kept the same schedules either. But my H has a better schedule and we're around each other more. He can't hide it as well. If it does fade, which I pray that it does soon, why would I want to hurt her H if there's no need?

H hasn't let me really kiss him in a long time. Just a peck here or there. Last night he did. It was so nice. It's just more of a connection to me. I miss that.

I have to get my butt out of the low I'm in. The gloomy weather doesn't help, but I have to pull myself up.

Oh, we were watching a tv show last night and Heather Locklear was guest starring. She was visiting her sister and was there to get away for a few days because she and her H were having issues. At the end, David Spade's character convinced her that she should go back to her H.......that he was a child of divorce and that his parents always said that not working on their marriage and getting a divorce was something that they regretted all their lives!! Hey, a positive thing!!

Thanks for being here for me today.

SueS