Chicki, CVA asked you yesterday what it was about you that H was attracted to. Like you said, you don't stay around for 10 years just because. You never really answered, but did say that he was attracted to your independence.
Well, show that to him again. You keep saying there's no third chance, yet you keep texting him, which is almost like an invite back.
From what I can tell from your postings, you are a kind, attractive woman. Willing to please your man in bed. A good mother who cares for her children and with a wealth of patience and forgiveness. I'm sure he was attracted to those qualities as well.
Let him go. Sounds like he's scared and unsure of himself. From what you write, it does sound like he cares for you, but doesn't know how to open up to you again. I don't know how/if you can break through to him while he's wrapped up with the OW.
For your girls, as everyone says, he can't keep yo-yoing between you and OW by moving his stuff in and then back out. That's so selfish on his part and hurtful to your children that words can't express the disgust I feel at someone who would do that. You deserve to be treated better than that and your children deserve to be treated better than that.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
