Hye I just wanted to say as well....thanks....I like your style. I say something and you give me a little reality slap. You sometimes seem a little rough but so am I and I can appreciate and take everything you say to heart and head. I think about your comments and your suggestions and I absorb what I think the message is (soemtimes I dont 'get it' and then I wil question the meaning...like I just did in my thread, but for the most part......thanks for each and every post you have made to me and for taking the time. I think that you are farther ahead of me in your self discovery or journey or whatever you want to call it and I have alot to learn.
M: 34 H: 32 M: almost 6 years S: 2 yrs D: 4 yrs Together: 8 Known him: 15 years I walked away: April 1st Wanted back: May 1st!!!!!
Your honestly is truly revealed in your story. :)Amazed at what you have written. Stay true to your heart and I know you and your W are going to make it.
Love the name. Question: Is your W intimidated by you?
Blunt and forceful is fine for dispensing advice and 2 x 4's here. Can get a little tiresome to some people. Your W one of them?
Do you really respect your W and the way she wants to be loved? Your 110% physical. I'm the same way, so I know where you're coming from. You also said something like taking a silver box and glueing shite on it would be received by your W as something good (her love language being gifts -- or whatever the term is, drawing a blank). Blunt's fine. Honest is fine. That sounds pretty damn dismissive. You might not intend it, or even think you're being dismissive. Your W might see it so.
Anyway, just a few sleep-deprived thoughts.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Do you really suspect that you would ever see this in me. If you saw me at a party, or saw me somewhere. You could not pick me out.
I respect my wife on a level that most people would not get.
I met my wife on New Years Eve almost 15 years ago.
I knew withing 45 min of meeting her that she was the "one" for me. I told my best friend at the time as much.
Did I ever expect I would be "here"? Hell no. I always assumed she would be right here with me.
No I did the silver box. Glued some stuff to it. Wrote a letter. It was well recieved. I followed that up with a "roomate document" Spelling out what she should pay while she was doing what she was doing. It was signed by me by the way.
What my wife is not seeing is the guy she married. I lost him. He went away. Life took it's toll. I am searching for him. He is right there. He just won't step up right now. He's hurt. He's distant. He has NFC disease. He made a big step tonight. Hopefully when he comes back my wife will be ready.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
