Also, he didn't have a lot of sexual confidence RJ, that line was me for a long time. Add in all of the moral messages and the need to work a lot just to get by.
Then I met BB and found out I was fine but the old internal messages still play and get put in play mode when some old trigger point gets bumped to the on position.
When BB was more receptive, I had more confidence. When there is opposition, my confidence drops. Reading and following people’s threads has helped my confidence.
I have "Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes Into Stepping-stones for Success" and it advocates doing something as long as it is on the plus side and with good intentions.
His books encourage ordinary people to little things to improve a situation and not to feel bad with less than perfect results. With a generous attitude, each step leads a person closer to a goal.
The "work with what you have" plays in the equation as a "do something now, don’t wait till things get better or you feel like doing it." It is almost the same thing as the "just do it," feeling/motivation doesn't count.
