I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds similar to mine,and I too wonder whether I'm being a fool for waiting for her (she hasn't talked about anything emotional since the separation; we have only seen each other briefly in four months) or whether I'm being courageous in waiting for her to snap out of it. Maybe she won't. I've accepted that my marriage may be over, but I won't pull the trigger on a divorce, at least not yet. Like you, I keep reading about people snapping out of MLC and coming back.
I have my faults that I'm working on, and the process of growth has helped my psyche. What are you working on? What problems did you cause in your marriage? What were your contributions to problems that were jointly created? Those are tough questions to explore, but you need to to do for YOU. If you get back with your W, you need to be a different person. If you don't, you need to figure out why your marriage failed (it's not just one person's fault, I believe) so you don't make the same mistakes in a second relationship.
Try to get out of your apartment. I know they can be lonely--I'm in one myself. But, I've joined a new church, connected on a deeper level with friends, developed new hobbies, started therapy (get a therapist; it's worth it for your own emotional well being and personal growth). In short, realize that it's not your W or anyone else who is responsible for your happiness. YOU are. That is true whether you are married or not. We only control ourselves.
Go make it a good day and give joy to yourself and others.
