I assume you're reading this post talk, but I wanted to send good thoughts your way! You sound great, very positive, and you know what you need to do. I hope it went as well as can be expected, and that you're very proud of yourself, however it went.
Originally Posted By: MinnesotaMan
I think this is going to go well.
This is key. I'm sure you read in DB about expecting the best (or at least acting like you do). This alone goes a long way to how things work out in the immediate situation. I'll be interested to hear how it did go.
Re the snooping: my friend, post all of the things you're ashamed that you did right here---this is definitely the place for it. We've all been there, so the folks who are responding to you are completely nonjudgmental. They know how it feels to be where you are, and they can give you better advice based on really knowing where you are.
One day very early into my sitch (bomb 8/1, this probably the next week) I opened my computer to find H had checked his email there, and it was still open. I had no intention of snooping, but I couldn't resist. I did check it (and I won't tell you what I found there, because it's totally irrelevant---I snooped), and then I closed the window and made sure to erase the password. I didn't want to be tempted again.
GD gave you all the good reasons not to snoop. You know they're true.
Now that you know about the W's interest in buying property, do you still feel the same way about it (you're not in a good position to do it now)? If you're sure, no worries---no reason to jump into a really bad financial prospect just to get W's attention.
If you think it might be possible for you guys could swing it, though, when and if the opportunity presents itself, show yourself willing to consider taking a risk with her (but only if you really, really are---this is obviously a precarious time to make what's already to you a precarious emotional situation). Just a thought.
I sure hope your talk went well. I'll be checking up on you.
