I've lost my S until December 18. D was allowed to stay here.
Dick has filled S's head with hate and anger towards me, as he has been brainwashing S, since their return from California. In the past 2 weeks I've seen major changes in attitude from S.
S was wisked away from me, without even a last dinner.... S didn't even say good bye to me or his sister..... as Dick didn't even bother with saying bye to D.
The Judge....well, he is blind to the real me, the real situation, the whole truth, believing everything Dick's lawyer has said, even when I provided proof in black and white AND the SRS agent when she spoke.
During the time S is away, I am going to build a case to prove all of Dick's lies... including the one about how he pays for the kids' cell phones. Jack@ss.... my name is the one on the contract, I pay the bill every month, it was so easy to prove, yet, Dick said he pays for it..... and the Judge believes it.
Dick is a disease.... worse than cancer.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
I am so sorry to hear this awful news. My heart aches for you and your children. There is a very special place in hell for "Dick".
I continue to keep you and your precious children in my prayers as you build your case against this horrible man.
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
Laughing, I am so very sorry to hear this news. God knows what will transpire between now and December. I just pray that God will intervene and watch over your son.
You know, this was most likely the goal that your h was striving for. Why? Because your son was the most vulnerable of the two. Your daughter wised up a long time ago and your son is still seeking that affirmation from his father. I do hope he sees the light very soon.
I have to agree w/IMP, the truth will set you free, but not only you, all of you.
Laughing, my prayers go out to you and your family this evening.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Laughing - I'm so very sorry to hear this. But please remember one thing - if your S wanted to go with his dad, most judges would let him go, regardless of any of this other stuff. And it is NORMAL for a teenage boy to want to go live with his dad, very very common.
My guess is a few months of living with dad and missing his friends (and your cooking!) will be all it takes for S to have a change of heart - but maybe not. He may be figuring there will be less supervision with dad; who knows?
What I DO know is that you raised a good boy, and you are a good mom. Just because S feels the need to go live with the father who has been absent from his life for so long does NOT mean it is a reflection on you or your parenting.
Don't get sucked in to the fight. The judge likely doesn't care who pays the cell phone bill. He just sees a boy over 13 years of age who chooses to live with his dad. Let it go.
Focus on your daughter and your home and don't punish S for his choice. He KNOWS he has YOUR love, he's trying to get it from his dad too.
Your D will need your love and attention; don't get sucked into focusing so much on the ex that she misses out. Have fun "girl time" with her. Show her how to survive and thrive.
