It's been a big week of DBing for me & I was a little tired from all the activity combined with taking care of the kids & going out.
You wrote this a couple of posts back GD, & it sure holds true for me lately.
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Right, Dave. And we can't concern ourselves with trying to figure that out until they are 110% committed to finding their way back -- it'll drive us nuts if we do so now!
H pursued me with asking me out (with S4) everyday this last week & coming over 6 out of 7 nights. I've subscribed to much of the Homer book (I have it on the internet, just can't seem to find a way to post the link)& had been nice, agreeable, although indifferent.
This prompted a panic attack once or twice & since he was here or at least available on the usual nights he saw OW, I thought they might have hit a rough patch.
As I began to ease up & relax....ta da......full distance mode last night & back to the same schedule as week before.
As he(Homer) says in the book, you can't just change your behavior sometimes, it has to be all the time & become part of you. I let expectations pull me over into the fast lane instead of staying right there in the 2nd lane with the flow of traffic.
So, it's back to reading parts of that book everyday, since that seems to work for me & keep my PMA high.
