There and Back, #7

[Dom R]

I know I would love to receive one of (those cards) I saw from H. fat chance of that happening
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I do NOT want him coming here on our anniversary (which is on a thursday).

I dont understand how you can write both of those sentances, in the same post.

I know that seems over the top to many of you, but its who I am. I know me, and I know what I need. that day is really going to suck for me, and I don't want any sympathy or pity from him. I don't want any guilt from him. I don't want any contact with him.

I think...if you truely want a chance at a marriage with your H again... you need to let these things happen.
I know that traditinally, men are fools for forgetting anniversary dates. But sounds like he's setting this up.

How about, if you want that chance.. you just let him come over that day, and do/say whatever he's going to say?

If you cant handle that, I'm not sure how you can possibly handle any kind of attempt at a real recovery.

If it helps you any... just presume that he forgot, and he's not going to bring it up, or say anything.
but dont sabotage it.

dont sabotage yourself