Scott, I'm glad you had a great time with your girls. You are one brave man to take a two year old to a ball game. I can't imagine my H ever taking my girls somewhere like that at that age.. You're a great dad.
It's great that you get to spend so much time with your girls, but be sure to find some time to do adult things also.
Hang in there, things will get better.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Don't worry, it appears to be a common theme many people going through similar sitches. Whenever they see us getting on with things, and feeling somewhat at peace, they decide to bring up things that they know will tick us off again.
My W was really good at pushing my buttons whenever she saw I was enjoying life and moving on. But you learn to avoid this from happening with time.
My biggest fear is pretty much the same as yours, not being able to see my DD every morning, and every night.
Hang in there Scott, I hope things get better for you with time, AndyV
Don't worry, it appears to be a common theme many people going through similar sitches. Whenever they see us getting on with things, and feeling somewhat at peace, they decide to bring up things that they know will tick us off again.
Yoyo, Hope, AndyV, LWB, Thanks for your support......
Well things are still chugging along here. My W is still pushing for my closing date on refi-ing my house and for my concerns about her crazy settlement proposal. Well my house refi should be done by the end of this month and yesterday my L responded to her L about their proposal.
Now on Tuesday I talked to my L and from what I was told it sounded like we were going to let the courts decide on a lot of the issues, which would prolong this D even further. This really worried me since my L seemed like she was more then willing to push my W into a meltdown... I really do not want to do that.....But more importantly how would that affect my little ladies????? I was relieved to hear from my L yesterday for two reasons: one is that we finally responded to my W L, and secondly my L extended an offer to my W L for the four of us to sit down and iron this out. So....if my W wants to end our M quickly she now knows where my L and I stand. The ball is in her court and if she does heave a meltdown it will be self induced.
Another thing that I should not concern myself with, but, has been weighing on me is that I think my W spent way to much on her new home. I think she is over estimating her CS payments from me and will struggle to keep her new place. I don't care if her standard of living drops but how does this affect my girls?
I have been doing good. Keeping myself extremely busy. I played softball this week on Monday and last night. Last night we slowed down a bit in the run scoring department....we only scored 20+ runs. The previous 3 games combined we scored 100+. No, I am not kidding.
A cute moment from last nights game and no I am not talking about the face plant my teammate made after stepping on home plate. While D5 was playing with a friend at the game, D2 was standing under a tree dancing around and singing. It was a precious moment to watch. Then after I got my girls home I put both of them to bed. While putting D5 to bed I was reading her a book and she crashed out on my chest after only a few pages. I then just laid there and watched her breath for awhile.
Scott, What a sweet picture in mind with you and your two daughters.
I'm so sorry your W is still pushing for the divorce. One of these days she will wake up and find out the man of her dreams was with her the whole time and she let him slip through her fingers!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I then just laid there and watched her breath for awhile.
I do this often on the weekends (since I can't put them to bed during the week) and it brings me such peace and focus.
I hope you guys (lawyers and you and W) can sit down and work things out. Actually, I WISH this wasn't happening to you at all, but if you can out come out of it minimally scarred (little ladies, especially).
Scott.....I've been there with the 'talking to the kids'. I would find a quiet time with your W and ....in your best DB mode...let her know that the kids made a comment to you. You can still do this in a non attacking way but plan for a lash out. Validate...don't get dragged into an argument...stay cool. Plan for this. You can just say that the two of you should try and keep things to a minimum in front of the kids, yada yada. Honestly, my W called me on this one once and I regretted that I ever asked my son any info on my W. I will NEVER do it again.
Don't feel bad...my sitch heads south, and, I think I am tired of doing this anymore. After 17 months of trying to save my M....I think I've had enough lying, cheating and dishonesty to last a lifetime. Keep up being strong. I support you. Remember my new quote:
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The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek...
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Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
