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[Yoyowife]

GISH,
Just relax. Be the man that she wants. Be pleasant and strong, not needy. Go about your business. Don't call her, let her do the calling. Listen to her, but don't try to put OM down, he's doing a good job of that himself.

You have heard the old saying "Give them enough rope and they will hang their ownself." Wow, I don't think it could be any truer in this case.

Like Saffie said don't get to excited about their actions. Work on your ownself first.