Mixed signals - question from the separated forum

[Dom R]

Now the twist to all of this, she's pressing for a separation agreement which flies in the face of everything. But I do see value in it so I am going along with it. Once we have that finished up she wants to start counseling to help us with being friends again.

buncha ****, catfan.. you should know this by now.

insist on counselling FIRST. (and make sure you find a good one. get recommendations for one, before offering)
The reason being, that an experienced counsellor, should be the most qualified person to suggest whether a separation is best for you at this point .

It was originally my recommendation but she's latched onto it.

translation: She recognizes it's the best carrot to dangle in front of you, to get you to sign on the dotted line.

C'mon man... you recognize that she has reverted to earlier behaviour by asking for this.

If she insists on "no, want separation agreement before counselling", then you know that she is being insincere about the counselling anyway.

You might even push for a retrouville weekend as the specific condition for the separation agreement.

In the context of "helping better communication between you both, whether or not you end up separate". Which, is completely honest. That is one of its explicit purposes.

if she's really open about this stuff, then ONE lousy weekend, should be no problem for her.