What a wonderful and insightful thread topic. I'm sure we all can relate one way or the other in this.
I just wanted to share a book that I have been reading....it was suggested to me from a fellow DB'er.
I Don't Want to Talk about It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression By Terrence Real
I found this book particularly interesting as "I don't want to talk about it", are words that I've heard so many many times. My x throughout his entire life was always a "background" person. I am a "foreground" person. He used to love this as it brought him out.....
Here is a "clip" of the book that really struck home to me.
"What comes naturally with children is often lost sight of in relationsh to adults, including ourselves. Society bids many of us to forget about inherant worth and, instead, to supplement the deficiency with external props such as weatlh, beauty, status. The greater the scarcity in ture-self esteem, the greater the need for supplementation".
As I look back I can see that he suffered from self-esteem issues long before I came along. It's like he was never satisfied with what he had, he had to have more. Bigger, better, newer......(mostly electronics). He would buy buy and buy......just to grow tired of it within weeks. If a friend bought one...he had to buy one.
I remember so clearly a week after he left...he said to me. I can never come back, my self esteem is so low, how low do you think it would be if I was to come home after leaving?
And sadly enough....from the few people I have spoken to at his workplace....(he is a supervisor) none of them hold him in hi regards anylonger. How sad that there is something that can be done, but they cannot see it.
Thanks for the wonderful topic
Jeanette
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