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[saffie]

Plus he's already told my w that his marriage is over and they are just finalizing divorce, so his wife probably wouldn't care.
He's told my wife, that his wife is a bit%h and that they can't stand each other. He claims his wife has mistreated him, etc.

Jeez, this guy is a scum bag. He knows your M has a chance and he's willing to FCUK it up. WHAT!!!!!!!! He is pushing all the old scumbag lines wth your W and she is falling for them. Surely you can see that he is a trickster - an opportunist and will not stay the course.

You got to get your head tuned in to how to GET your W back. OM is history - truly. He is going to shoot himself in the foot - soon. really you need to ride the storm and wait. Your W loves you. This guy WILL NOT make her happy. Instead of thinking about OM think about why he was able to turn your W's head. What can you do to turn it back? What can you do to make her want you? That includes holding back aswell as giving yourself. You are too available. the R between you and your W still seems close. She will notice small changes. I think the slightest withdrawl by you she will feel. I think she will then panick and try to reel you back in. Stay strong - make her come to you!!!!

Truly GISH there is much hope in your M.

saffie