You don't have to be the one to tell. What about his W. Does she know about the A?
If your W wants to feel loved let her experience feeling loved by OM. Doesn't seem that he knows how to love and she will tire quickly if you stop filling in the gaps for her.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Saffie, I truly am thankful for your input. It is very thoughtful for you to be open about what you've gone though to help a stranger. THANK YOU. He's not gay, he's told my wife he loves her, so I'm not sure why he has this issue. Yes he is a co-worker (they've known each other 4 months). I'm not 100% sure but I think my wife saw a picture of her. All I know is my wife is telling the truth about his wife based on either what he told her or if she saw a picture. He joked with my wife that he doesn't do fat chicks. My wife told me she didn't really like that comment but she told me that comment so I would know that his wife is overweight and that's how my wife knows he hasn't had sex with his own wife for a very, very, long time and that's why he can't perform 100% because she said if you don't use it, you lose it.
Going, Saffie is right on. You have no idea what load of bullsh!t OM has jibber jabbered to your wife. You know the score as do we. You need to do whatever you can to get past this OM issue and get focused. If it consumes your thoughts all day everyday how are you going to deal with it if she does come home? You are WASTING an awful lot of time worrying over things that may or may not be true as well as things that are out of your control.
For the record, my replies have been to going and I have confused Sandline and going at times. Then again everyone begins to sound the same. Sorry for the confusion.
I would have no way to know how to get a hold of his wife to tell her. Plus he's already told my w that his marriage is over and they are just finalizing divorce, so his wife probably wouldn't care. He's told my wife, that his wife is a bit%h and that they can't stand each other. He claims his wife has mistreated him, etc. He said the difference between his marriage and ours, is him and his wife don't want each other and hate each other, but in my situation, he told my wife I still love her.
My wife told me she didn't really like that comment but she told me that comment so I would know that his wife is overweight and that's how my wife knows he hasn't had sex with his own wife for a very, very, long time and that's why he can't perform 100% because she said if you don't use it, you lose it.
LOL! I haven't had any in a long time (I won't say how long as I might be forced to hand in my penis) and I promise you that performing wouldn't be the problem, lasting would.
The OM and wife met at work. It was a new job for her. She's only been there 4 months and that's where they met. He left her Hersey kisses in her office and I would guess paying attention to her, etc. and then telling her his situation about his wife, etc. And I guess that's how the friendship started. I'm only not insane today because of my wife sleeping over yesterday. It still hasn't kicked in with our son yet, so so far he seems to be OK right now on the surface though he did say one of the nights he stayed home with me that he missed mom. When I told my wife she was upset he felt that way and she felt bad and hoped I wasn't just telling her to lay a guilt trip
Unless she's just making that part up, but I really don't think so because there would be no reason just to make that part up and you really need to know that my wife is honest and does always tell me things. BUT WHY would he sexually be like that then??
Single - THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I SAID.lol - well not for you but you know what I mean. If my H and I have been on an arid stint that was what would happen - then with OW H had problems finishing - hah!!! That OM has problems GISH - I knew it - another man has confirmed my suspicions. Single, I want to hug you!!!!! but don't get too excited!!
saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
