MORe stuff.. hopefully useful to you You put a lot of effort in writing down your feelings, so I'm gonna put lots o effort in giving you feedback on em.
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he loved that and I did it about once or twice/month. I didn't do it with any expectations for return but when I NEVER got a similar return well....it just wasn't as much fun anymore.
sooo.. how many times, did you actually ask for it to be returned? If you literally never got it back... one might think that you never asked. directly asked, anyways
NB: one of the most important parts about "radical honesty", is about learning how to be truely direct, in what you tell your spouse.
"honey, I think when we ML it's soo special to me, and it really brings out positive feelings for me. i hope it does to you to... [15 minutes later] .. and it would be really nice if I felt that you felt the same way, and showed it to me" .. would NOT be "radically honest".
"honey, I have fun doing xxx to you. I'm feeling really left out that you never do xxx to me back, though"... THAT, is RH
and, probably last comment I have about your post:
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As is usual in my household, this weekend held many unforseen events
yup. i know what it is like to be in such a household. Putting off the discussion, really didnt help much, did it? Timing IS important.. if someone is completely wiped from something right at the moement, then obviously, talking about deep stuff, is a bad idea. But waiting "until everything is peace and light", just doesnt work, in an ultra-busy household like yours. You will build up issues faster than you get the chance to talk about them.
Rather than 2 hour drag-out stuff... maybe you might choose to do single-issue, short, "radically honest" talks (15 minutes) now and again.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
