He's exactly our age, 44. No he does not smoke or drink. He's into health and fitness (in fact he's a vegetarian).
But again, he HAS BEEN ABLE to physically do the "act", he just has not been able to go until completion. I'm sick to my stomach even thinking about it but part of me believes what you are saying about the whole sex thing.
She is very mild natured, and nurturing and does have great patience which may work against everything, since she may well be patient with him if she thinks she loves him.