I'm still doing it

[mkultra]

No more snooping, no more conjecturing. Assume the worst but act as if you give him the benefit of the doubt. He sees himself the way you reflect him. Make it a positive. I have no idea if he is conspiring with his OP or if he is introducing her to his parents. I am naive by choice but it would be funny if he was talking to his mom on the phone that day.

You are better than that anyways. Think of it this way, if you do reconcile, you would want him to be honest and transparent. Then you would have to be honest and transparent too. No more spying, snooping, conjecturing, following, etc. That is so Jerry Springer anyways. I have done it too, believe me, especially with the online banking and cell phone. I just now through away the proof and deleting all his emails. It feels so good to get rid of all that affair evidence!!!

But what does it prove. That they met someone else who is available, younger, prettier, less moral, weaker, stronger, dumber, willing to have sex because there are no crying babies in the next room, how easy and mammalian, let's evolve folks. Who cares? These OP do not matter.

We have to deal with these blokes until grandparents age so let's hold up our head and refuse to sink.

If you can deal with him in the house, keep it up as much as possible. Think about 789, and how patient and obliging he was. he gave his wife all the space she needed and she finally needed to be fed, so she came home. WS are like dogs this way. We can chase them away, but i they get hungry and we reward them for coming home, they stop running away. And you know your H is missing your meals, your kids, your everything. He is just lost and hurt. Don't exacerbatet he sitch with losing his trust too.