The next thing was an attempt at sex which went nowhere. I ended up by saying "I think both of us want to be ravished and neither of us is in the mood to do the ravishing". He agreed, so we just fell asleep. It was the least rancourous failed sex attempt we have ever had.
I like the honesty of this. Maybe this is the Radical Honesty Corri was talking about.
It's hard when both people want to be wanted. I have this in my marriage. I want H to be that strong dominating male of my fantasies, and he wants me to admire and desire him. None of this was communicated and we both retreated, me into fantasy world, and H to OW.
I have difficulty doing the desiring thing when I am not feeling it. The way I feel the desire is by a strong initation. It's a catch-22.
Lou, if you are reading along, I am wondering how you find the desire to always initate when BB doesn't show you desire.
