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[saffie]

GISH,

You jump to your W's tune too easily. Try being there for her but not immediately. If she wants her garbage taking out for Pete's sake why can't she do that. Is she disabled. Ditto light bulb. Really GISH I know you want to show her you love her but at the moment she is CAKE EATING big time. She is using you as and when she wants to and then putting you back in your box when OM clicks his fingers. OM sounds dodgy but your W has to work that out.

OM IS NOT A THREAT. I repeat OM is not a threat. I can absolutely guarantee you he will not stay around. He sounds like he is using your wife to prop himself up whilst he sorts his own M . You cannot say that to your W though. She has to work that out for herself. He is going to dump on her big time. I PROMISE THAT. I can see it from a mile off.

If you want to save your M it is down to you and how you interact with your W. OM will not do anything but YOU can make yourself look like a really good option to your W, as OM is going to show her just how bad he is; she will look to you for comfort. BUT you must not be needy. She needs a strong you - not a pushover.

When it comes to sex just STOP. SHe knows the sex is good with you. It's bad with OM - GREAT. Let her get frustrated and put pressure on OM - that's a sure fire way of making it even worse for OM. If he has trouble performing anyway, a bit of pressure should finish him off, (OR NOT HAH!!!). Don't worry about the everyday stuff. Concentrate on you and making you a person she will want to come back to when things go wrong with OM.

GISH - you just have SO MUCH going for you but are not be able to see it. BELIEVE in YOURSELF.

Saffie