You sound like you're doing good, brotha. Cleaning the house was a good idea (and it is good to keep you busy too), and I'm sure W will notice. If anything, the clean house shows that you are a strong man that is dealing with a difficult situation well (i.e. now wallowing in self pity and therefore lacking motivation). Life is happening and you are handling it with grace.
Looking good is also a good idea. I think it's smart to just dress very well with your comfortable clothes. I was (and still am) a pretty slender built guy when W left. I'm 5'10" and was a mere 140 lbs when W first left. Since May I've been working out like a mad man and putting on weight. I'm now at 165 lbs and looking and feeling great! I also bought a new wardrobe to fit the new me. I know W has to notice, and it's probably bumming her out that she's now with this older guy that is balding, out of shape, etc. Maybe not, but believing this keeps me motivated to some extent.
I suggest doing what you can to look your best -- working out, eating right, dressing well, etc. This will definitely get your W's attention, even if she NEVER mentions such changes.
