How do I ever bring up asking her what her intentions are?
You don't, ever! You'll know her intentions, and in any case, her intentions, today, will change over time, just like the rest of us. We intend to do many things, but "I hear tell, the road to hell is paved with good intentions", .
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Any thoughts on where to go if (when!) I return to this same behavior?
Now hopefully you are not out there leading troops and fighting a war that you do not think they can win. I'm betting that there is little doubt in your mind that you CAN win, given the proper political climate of course.
Anyway, you need to carry that same kick ass and take names attitude home with you. You are a warrior! A [censored] kickin, fearless, smart, and tactfull soldier. You have all the tools and training you need to get the job done. But do you have the heart?
Do you have the balls to stand in front of your W, look her fearlessly in the eye, and demand her to be respectful to you? That's a good first step my brother. I'd spend the next nine months training for that one simple sentence, statement, and stand. Watch some old John Wayne movies, "The Quiet One", is a good one. Duke's brovado is inpsiring.
You are NOT at her mercy, she is at YOURS! You do not ask what she intends, you tell her what you intend, expect, and demand. She's been rude, disrespectful, and down right cruel to you, and you've always given in to her. You honestly believe the BS she feeds you about how worthless you are, how inept you are, how stupid you are. Well here's a surprise, she's right! You have been all those things because you've believed her, and accepted it. Swallowed it hook line and sinker.
Time to wake up FLTC. You're choking on BS. Your W is sick, and she needs a leader. She's been taunting you, prodding you, and poking you to wake up and kick her ass back into line, but you've been running and hiding.
Well she's in for a little surprise when you get home my friend. You'll not take one more word of her crap. When you are around she'll be polite and friendly or guess what? You'll be the one slinging fire. I suggest you start practicing, honestly find a friend to practice with. And start training for battle!
God Bless,
COG
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