I just texted h this:

If you decided to go back to her, there will not be a 3rd chance.I will use the $ I had for the house for the D. I told the girls you were likely to move back to her. They were sad. I wanted you to stay thru the holidays,but I will no longer hold you. You win.

I know H will not text back. But at least this lets him know whre I stand & I will not be a doormat for him to move in & out as he pleases. The girls were so excited on friday...upon his short lived return.