Catfan,
Are you living together or separately? I would get a copy of the book, "It's Mostly His Fault" by Robert Alter. It's a book for men on how to improve connection in the marriage. You can use it to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a H, and start practicing skills that will help you to reconnect with your W.

What are your strengths and weaknesses as a H? What do you need to better this time around?

I'm working on listening, conversational skills, giving her power over minor issues, and working to reconnect when there has been conflict.

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching