PLEASE HELP ON THIS ONE...Saturday my wife say OM at work. He's been claiming he hates his own wife, etc but while my wife was talking on cell to me, he called his and asked what she wanted for dinner. My wife thought something didn't add up that he had to call his soon to be ex just because she was talking with me. She told him that Sunday she was spending the day with our son and me. He got pizzed and commented, "Oh what? Are you moving back in with him Sunday too"? "You'll probably be back with him in 6 months" So Sunday comes and we have a wonderful day together with our son. We come back to our house and my wife helps with our bills and some cleaning together. While I'm upstaris she comes in the bedroom and lies down. She says she is just so exhausted she could fall asleep. I don't know if I was wrong but I just had a feeling that she wanted to be with me at the moment. I lied next to her and massaged her and then it led to love making. BUT even though she was intially enjoying it, she still didn't want to kiss or change positions and at the end said she shouldn't be doing this. She didn't cry and wasn't upset with me, she just said it was wrong doing that with me because she still has feelings for the OM. We talked awhile about how she needs space to figure out what she wants. She says she is not ruling us out but just needs to see if she can give this relationship with the OM a chance to see if that will make her happy. She says she hates it at her apartment and sometimes does wish she would come home but with the OM now it's not that simple. She says she finally realizes that I do love her and care about her which she hasn't felt from me in awhile. She went to her apartment after that but 10 mins later she calls me and asks if I can come over to help her take her garbage out to the curb and to help her change a light. I went as quick as I could and helped her. We talked alittle while longer. She opened up with more information about the OM. She says sometimes it feels like he's pushing her away. I asked her if she thinks he has sex with his wife still and she says "NO, I know for a fact" I ask why and she says because his wife has become fat and he won't do anything with her because of that and he has performance issues. Here's the part that is killing me. She admitted that they tried to start to have sex a few times and it gets started but goes no where to the end because he can't fully get aroused. SHe sayed "If you don't lose it, you lose it" and that's why she knows he hasn't been having sex with his wife. Our sex life had never been a problem and she said that sometimes you need to just have that physical closeness and that's why part of her wanted to do that with me Sunday. She did give me the option when we started and said to me, "Are you sure you want to do this?" So after we had the discussion at her apartment I went home not expecting to her from her the rest of the night. About 8:45 pm she calls the house again and said she is creeped out at her apartment and doesn't know what to do. I said, "We can come over there if you'd like and I can sleep on the sofa". She says "No, that's too much to bring our son out, etc". I then said, "Ok why don't you come here and stay, I will still sleep on sofa". SHe says "Ok, if that is ok with you". So she comes over and I was goign to sleep on sofa and she says I can sleep in bed with her because it's my room and she doesn't want to kick me out. We sleep and she lets me hug her all night. SHe gets up and takes a shower and then asks me to follow her to apt to make sure everything is ok. Before leaving her apt we talk for a few moments. She said it felt a little strange sleeping at house and she didn't sleep as soundly as she thought. MY QUESTION: Does her comment about feeling strange sleeping there and not sleeping as soundly, mean anything really bad? Am I looking too much into that comment. Would that turn her off from wanting to get back together? PLEASE I'M BEGGING EVERYONE TO COMMENT
