Great to hear from you. In spite of my hardass exterior toward my (still) W, I really appreciate your moral reinforcement here.
The twist here is that she/we would openly tell the kids that we "Mommy and Daddy don't love each other any more". In spite of all this crap, I still could and do, so it would not be accurate, and your statement is much better.
Yes, she has no respect for me, said as much in fact. Regarding the new lovers, she has hers in Germany, and I 'could have mine in California', where I occasionally work. I don't see how this could work out either, unless I were always at the girlfriend's place and I don't get to California that often.
So you would file? I have all the papers here and it is only a formality now. The accounts are prepared and income redirected so that can't access my salary anymore. The kids and I could have a nice time in Boston with my folks in a few weeks, and forget her. The only question on that front is whether I should leave my daughter to chaperone my W, but that doesn't feel right. What do you think? The kids would have a nicer time I think with me. We could also take my car to the airport (my job pays for it, and so she legally won't have access if I file) and park it there, making transportion to any love party tough.
File now? When do I tell the kids? My daughter came across her this weekend talking to OM and was quite upset, which finally pushed me to this talk. I so hated to end our marriage.
Thanks, friend,
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
