All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

What a bizarre weekend. I'm afraid to jinx myself!!!

It was the best weekend in a long time....

It started with the takeaway on Friday. Then the whole family meet for a lunch out of town the next day. I got home took the k's out. H went to work then came back and went to the gym. The whole day he has been txting me and telling me where he is, what he is doing etc.

Sunday H had to work, all day, I met a friend for a coffee, took the s's. Met up with H to work togther.

Before all of this started H & I used to go to the gym togther on a Sunday evening, just for a swim and a sauna, jacussi, but I stopped going. However yesterday i decided to go before he normally goes and be back in time for H to go at his normal time. I really enjoyed it. H then went and was a little late back than normal. Which was fine. He came to bed and explained he had stopped for a drink.

The changes have been: H although extremely tired has seemed very upbeat, more chatty and wanting to chat??

Biggest improvement is that he has come to bed with me at the same time.

Their has been a lot of eye contact. Still no hugging or affection, but I didn't want to push that, I feel content at the moment with the upbeatness of the whole weekend.

What have I done different? Been more upbeat & positive, lots of positive affirmations, getting out of the house when I normally would have stayed in with H for company and i bought him a small gift (i'm also not drinking red wine, i found it was acting as a depressant). I think i'm lovingly distant and trying not to be needy and be more independant. I also very actively encouraged him to purchase a watch he has been looking at. (very, very expensive MLC toy?). I'm also making a bigger effort to keep the house immaculate (you know when you put your house on the market to sell....that kind of immaculate). I'm also clearing up after him ( i know i can hear you saying i shouldn't, but if these small things act 'an act of love' and it's working, who am i to grumble). I also bought new curtains for the bedroom without consulting him ( i'm normally realy bad at making decisions and been assertive).

I'm hoping this may be the start of better things to come?

What do you all think??

XD