The Course of an Affair

[GainingStrength]

Nikki - Still working on GAL. Below is my last post on my old thread from 9/3. I've been concentrating on letting go instead of DBng, with mixed success:

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Right now today, I'm starting to train myself to embrace this divorce as the right thing to happen. This is partly because I can't take this much pain indefinitely, because if I "go with what's going to happen anyway I'll be less vulnerable, because my W does have some pretty nasty traits that were apparent before the A or D started, and because I really am 23 years older than her and maybe she does need a younger man (OM is 38, W is 40).

I still love her but I cannot change the fact of her intense desire for the D so that she can have her "Big Life" and big new house with the OM (along with her MLC). Therefore, I think I need to focus more on detaching than DBing (although I have been told that the two go hand in hand)...