There and Back, #7

[nephartiti]

MK, you flatter me and give me way too much credit.

I think Tom could have been speaking to any one of us. Detaching is so hard yet so important. It is not giving up, but it is stepping out ogf the engagement. You no longer become a participating party in the dramatic process of the WAS. You don't let them push your buttons or raise the heat on the pressure cooker. Those buttons and dials are off limits to them.

Take your space, Morgan. Do not engage with him until you are ready. I know you are thinking of D because you are PO'd and hurt and just plain tired of everything. You need a breather. Donna is right. The D would not change what you are dealing with right now. Even if you D and H stays with OW, you will still be dealing with this man because of the kids. You have to learn to detach regardless. I have to follow my own advice. Btw, you don't have to wait til your anniversary to go dark. Do it when you need it.

Take care. I hope you feel better soon. We could make some of that cookie dough and pull out the wine. I think we could all use some after the week we all seemed to have had.