The Good, the Bad, and the Funny 4

[nephartiti]

I think I see a pattern. H was really involved in S2's pregnancy, birth, infancy. He only went to one appt with D's pregnancy, wasn't there to really support me through it. He definitely checked out. My mom always told me, "you have to put your M first,even before the kids." I looked at her like she was crazy, but now I realize she was right. You take care of your M. By doing so, you ensure a family to take care of your kids. Ooops. No, I wasn't taking care of him. I was struggling to take care of S9, S2, my prego self, my job. I did basic things for him-laundry, meals, appointments, etc, but I wasn't giving him the attention he wanted. In fact, I had a resentment because he wasn't supporting me when I needed him. Everything built up from there. Still, no excuse to start an R with someone else and abandon the family.

MK, are you bartending? Bartenders get hit on. I don't know your mom that well, but since there are people who obviously don't know, she's probably not broadcasting your sitch. You probably are just hot beyond belief and make their young hearts thud violently in their chests.

Your H probably got hit on too. Only he obviously enjoyed it and took advantage of the ego boost. It's a bar. One of the primary purposes of going to a bar is to stake out what's available. Add intoxication to it, and you have a hell of an environment.

It doesn't sound like you are enjoying this job. Maybe it isn't a good place for you. On the other hand, if you can brush the hits off and not take them personally, it wouldn't hurt to flirt a little. You'll get bigger tips