I'm still doing it

[nephartiti]

I took the kids apple picking yesterday. We had so much fun!

H's # was on the caller ID, but he didn't leave a msg. Hmmmm. Didn't expect to hear from him. Anyway, I sent him some pics of the kids picking apples and feeding the animals.

Here is my current stance.

1. I'm still basically dark. I'm not calling him.
2. He seems to genuinely appreciate pics of the kids, so I will shoot some his way from time to time.
3. When there is contact, I will continue to act "As If"
4. I will continue to work on being detached and not react to his actions.

I have been thinking about what the phone calls and his behavior tell me. Also, I think I am dealing with a competitive OW. She seems to thrive on getting under my skin. He was a few hours late without calling. I didn't react, but I think she questioned him on it. He says, "No, not really. Well, she just said she hadn't heard from me." (which isn't true either, btw.) That would be consistent with all the other inconsiderate things. They just like to push my buttons. Also, I'm beginning to think that one reason he spends the day at school is to "protect" her from his "crazy" wife. She acts so afraid of me. If I was going to do something to her, it would have been done a long time ago.

So, I am going to take away their fun. No matter what, I am not going to react. I will stay calm and detached. That is not to say I will not protect myself by, for example, securing my PC, but I will do it without comment. I'm not here for their amusement. Also, I have to demonstrate that I no longer care what they are doing.