I recall one time a couple of years ago I traveled on business for a week. I was nearly back at the house when she called on my cell-phone... I was angry that she had taken away the last ten minutes of my "alone" time. That was not a good sign.
It was a long time before I could really be with her without feeling any of the tension and chaos.
Much later, during better times, I offered to send her to her friend's house a thousand miles away for a few days... she seemed to be under too much stress and not dealing with it well. She turned it down; she was afraid she wouldn't want to come back.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.