Just found out that OW has a kid!!

[Ophelia]

One would assume he knows. He knows I didn't want the separation in the first place, but for the last few months of our email communication, I haven't brought up any R talk at all, so perhaps he's wishfully thinking that I'm over it and have "moved on" just like he did the second he stepped out of the house. I've also done my best to stay upbeat when I've seen his parents, (they still come over for lunch once every couple of months or so), and never ask them about him, so if they mention that to him, maybe he thinks I'm over him.

He sprung a Property Settlement on me out of nowhere. I didn't even know he'd been to see a L until I got the letter in the mail. I don't want the same thing happening with D papers.

Those are the reasons I feel the need to say something pre-emptive.

How's this for a rewrite...

I know that any day now, you'll be able to file for divorce. I'm respectfully asking that you not file, and instead just leave things as they are. I'm in no way prepared to face that, and you obviously don't need it, having already moved on with Amy, so could you please just leave things be? The rest of this year will suck enough already with my little brother going to live in London for a year or more in about a month's time, so I don't need divorce proceedings lumped on top of that.

If you do ever decide to file, I would appreciate it if you'd at least discuss it with me first. I don't want to have it dumped on me out of the blue like you did with the property settlement.

Is that last bit too nasty? It was really wrong the way he handled the Property Settlement stuff, but I've never told him off for it before.