I wouldn't be surprised to hear that she'd already addressed that. But anyway...

It is unnerving to go around thinking that taking off your pants and revealing a soft member could, all by itself, be taken as a deadly insult against her looks, her sex appeal, or whatever. If she's got even a hint of "body issues", this is a real worry in his mind. And then avoiding the issue is also an insult against her, but perhaps you can get away with avoiding it for a little while until the thing decides to work. And then just one day more. And then just another day more. And then you realize you've already hurt her by waiting too long, and if you try and it doesn't work, you'll hurt her a lot more.


a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.