Do you have an update? What is H doing/saying now? Has he come back home? I'm not sure how he reacted to your "chasing" him w/ the phone calls, etc. I think you need to truly detach and wait and see what happens. If he's truly committed to coming home and working on the M or not.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10