LOL at him trying to 'back his story' with his mom and grandma!! That is hilarious. What a sad bluff. ;\) Well, the 'thanks for your concern" thing didn't work, but at least you said it. I don't know what you should do after this. I guess if you 'caved' and started telling him what you were doing, he would feel like "See, was that so bad to tell me?". UGH I don't know.

I know what you mean about being annoyed about the pay increase. I think its partially a mourning thing, that you cannot fully enjoy H's new success because you are apart. If you were together you could be planning fun things with the new money, you know? But now it is just annoying. I feel that way about H's new job. Its just another new area that I am not involved in, not invited to join or meet his new coworkers. I think H is wanting you to be proud of him and the $$ is his way of saying "I can still take care of you". I guess it could be a lot worse, and he could be trying to hide money, keep more for himself, etc.

I forget, do you still have one account for money?

Enjoy kid-free shopping. \:\)