ok.. having calmed down a bit since yesterday, I'm not even sure what I want or want to do. Part of me says go LLRT-how do you do this when you are still living in the same house? Part of me is still trying to figure out what exactly the cheeseless tunnel is. I am so confused.
I just don't understand how he can still maintain contact w/ow and act affectionate to me; talk about new houses for us; ask me what I want for my birthday; take me out on dates; basically act like he cares - like we have an actual M. The sad thing is that I believe he thinks he's "working on" our R but I am so frustrated with his continued contact w/ow and his secret "second life" that his "nice" actions toward me are doing more damage than good. Maybe it's all just to make himself feel better.. like "gosh I tried. but, I just couldn't make this marriage work".
So, when does it stop being a positive - something you are doing is making your spouse move closer to you, and becomes a cheeseless tunnel.. HELP! I feel very confused
