Had a super day GALing. Made a 2-1/2 hr drive to go to a wine festival and a photo shoot with a new group of friends. The new freedom is just so therapeutic! I was so happy that I also brought back a bottle of reisling for my W. This is a 180 by itself, since I was never much of a wine guy and my W would never think of me going to a wine festival. She did look surprised when I gave her the bottle. ;\)

Came back to town and picked up the kids. I see that W has purchased a brand spanking new Altima coupe with sunroof to add to her 'replay' lifestyle. It hurts to see the kids getting in and out from the gutter in the back. But here is the news that made my spirit go on a nose dive. It seems W continues to have OM along when she has my 2 DDs (well the little ones tell me everything). She is in fact ignoring my L's warning that came with the D petition and if I want I can ask my L to proceed to get a court order to stop this. But I am at cross roads. I have started to detach effectively from my W and I want to move forward in my life treating her as a friend. I really don't want to escalate the fight. I think the new OM she has is not dangerous, although I haven't met him. My DDs seem to have good time with him, although the little one is really confused with the whole thing. I am almost inclining towards letting my W continue with this and the affair might fizzle out soon.

But on the other hand, I don't want to be a doormat and I am just not feeling comfortable with the way she is treating me and the kids. The more friendly I try to be, the more she stabs on my back. This is so nerve racking! Somebody please help me out with good advice.